The futile and fatal search for control counselling

The futile and fatal search for control

February 19, 2015

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  Sandra was furious. She had caught Tom checking her phone message once again. “ I just did it to reassure myself – its no big deal” Tom replied defensively. Is it a big deal? In relationships the tendency or temptation to control is one of the most toxic forces that. Read more

How you can Change Your Brain to Maximise Your Potential

December 12, 2014

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If you want to be the most effective, visionary, inspirational, productive person (and to be the best in any of the roles you ‘play’ in your life), it’s useful to become conscious about why you do what you do in the different roles you have; to be aware of the habits. Read more

Fly In Fly Out Lifestyle – Suggestions for Keeping your Relationship alive

February 18, 2014

If you have just started a FIFO/DIDO lifestyle, here are some suggestions that will help keep your relationship as healthy as possible: Suggestions for Keeping your Relationship alive 1. Have Specific Joint Goals. Discuss your commitment to the FIFO/DIDO decision and state and even write down your specific joint goals. Ensure that. Read more

Is Distance the new Closeness?

January 23, 2014

Absence does makes the heart grow fonder, but  does geographical distance increase romantic closeness?   Usually we imagine that we need to live relatively close to each other and see each other often to develop a close romantic relationship. However, a growing body of research by Aaron Ben-Zeez in the US indicates. Read more

The 5 Levels of Intimacy: Which level do you communicate on?

January 16, 2014

  In modern day relationships intimacy is the name of the game. But what exactly does intimacy mean? Barbara Wilson has identified  that there are actually 5 levels of intimacy, that we move through as we get to know a new partner or friend. The Five Levels of Intimacy Level One:. Read more

Why women find it difficult to be assertive in their relationships

December 10, 2013

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I talked in an earlier post on why men find it difficult to express empathy. For women, I have found that one of the most challenging things for them is to stand up for themselves in their relationship; I have many many women clients express how they are sick of their. Read more

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