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What Happens in a Narcissist’s Mind, and How Did He/She Become a Narcissist?

February 24, 2017

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  Narcissism is based on an inflated “false self”, which has developed as a result of a developmental arrest in childhood. As a child, he/she withdrew inwards and resorted to grandiose fantasies of being superior, special, perfectly loved, self-sufficient and self-important. This was to cover the vulnerability, self-doubt and worthlessness that. Read more

What can I do if I’m living with a Narcissist?

February 24, 2017

What can I do if I'm living with a Narcissist

  If you are in a relationship with a Narcissist, in his/her mind, you are an extension of him/her and he/she must always win, so his/her eruptions of temper and ego and devaluations and guilt are sharp and designed to cut you to the core, leaving you wounded. So, in an. Read more

Why am I with a Narcissist?

February 24, 2017

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You may be wondering why anyone would be masochistic enough to ever get themselves into a relationship with someone who has so many characteristics of a Narcissist and who leaves you feeling so dreadful? But the truth is that things start off very differently. The narcissist is an absolute perfect delight. Read more

How Do I Know If I’m With a Narcissist?

February 24, 2017

How do I know if I'm with a Narcissist

An integral part of a healthy relationship is a sense of equality and consideration and empathy for each other. In fact no relationship can feel rewarding and supportive if either partner is mostly self-absorbed. It was once joked that “a Narcissist is someone who after taking the trash out gives the. Read more

Why do we Allow Ourselves to be Controlled?

February 24, 2017

Here are some of the reasons why we may have allowed this type of controlling behaviour to have slipped in to our relationship.   We assume that there is good will, that our partner really does want to understand us, and when he or she doesn’t, it is because we haven’t. Read more

Quiz: How to Identify if You Have a Controlling Partner

February 17, 2017

If you’re wondering if you have a controlling partner, we’ve created this Quiz just for you. Go through the following statements and add the total number of occasions that you answered yes to.   Your partner tells you in subtle or not so subtle ways that your perception of reality is. Read more

Are You Living With a Steamroller?

February 10, 2017

Why do some people become controlling? In order to be our unique and real self, we need access to 4 internal parts of us. They are: 1. Our feelings 2. Our sensations, like hearing, touch, sight and movement, and our preferences. 3. Our intuition 4. Our thinking The first 3 of. Read more

Are You Living With a Steamroller?

February 3, 2017

Why do some people become controlling? In order to be our unique and real self, we need access to 4 internal parts of us. They are: 1. Our feelings 2. Our sensations, like hearing, touch, sight and movement, and our preferences. 3. Our intuition 4. Our thinking The first 3 of. Read more

The futile and fatal search for control

February 19, 2015

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  Sandra was furious. She had caught Tom checking her phone message once again. “ I just did it to reassure myself – its no big deal” Tom replied defensively. Is it a big deal? In relationships the tendency or temptation to control is one of the most toxic forces that. Read more

Forget relationship counselling: We are just too different

December 10, 2013

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  “We are just too different for our relationship to work, and so relationship counselling is a waste of time”.  I had a new client say this to me this week, and it is a common thing for people to think. But nothing could be further from the truth, so I. Read more

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