Sex Therapy Melbourne

Sex and lovemaking can be the most satisfying or disappointing part of your relationship and life.

Most couples begin their relationship as a romantic passionate love affair, complete with idealization of their new love and a strong sexual desire for each other.

But, once you’re settled in the relationship, and it becomes both more serious and secure for you both, the challenge then becomes how to integrate both your intimacy and your eroticism.

Sex is about so many things; love, fun, desire, lust, connection, pleasure and intimacy. A healthy sexual connection with our partner is a very important component for a happy, fulfilling relationship. Great sex and lovemaking can be the glue that keeps you feeling deeply and physically connected with each other, enabling you to weather many other kinds of storms in your relationship and life in general.

But when we’re unsatisfied with our sex life, our whole relationship can start to go downhill.

When you’re intimate with your partner, you’re at your most vulnerable. So, if sexual issues arise, such as mismatched libido’s or erectile dysfunction, it’s understandable that one partner can take it as a personal rejection. When issues arise regularly, it’s easy for either partner to become hurt, frustrated, resentful, disconnected and feel embarrassed, undesirable or unwanted.

Whether we’d like to admit it or not, the partner with the least desire for sex always controls the frequency and quality of sex. 

Ultimately your sexual relationship is meant to play an energizing role in your relationship, one that enlivens and bonds the two of you together, while giving a regular charge of energy to your love.

If your relationship is currently going through sexual difficulties, rest assured there is help available from our Hart experts in Sex Therapy and Relationships.

There is not a couple alive who has not had even the occasional difference in what they would like and expect in their sex life.

Many couples – some experts estimate about 45% – have concerns or problems with sexual desire, arousal, orgasm or sexual satisfaction. Sex problems are rarely simple.

There is not one cure-all for all sexual problems.  They are a result of psychological, physical and relationship factors and can cause great emotional suffering and distress.

The most recent studies have shown that 1 in 3 women are turned off sex, whereas the figure is closer to 1 in 6 for men. It seems that from the 2008 Durex Sexual Wellbeing Survey of 26,000 people around the world, as well a recent Australian study, women often feel they lose interest in sex because the kind of sex on offer is not what turns them on.

Even though sex is a common topic for jokes in many social conversations, most couples don’t really talk much about what they like and don’t like with each other, nor are most people educated on how to have a great and healthy sex life.