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What Happens in a Narcissist’s Mind, and How Did He/She Become a Narcissist?

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  Narcissism is based on an inflated “false self”, which has developed as a result of a developmental arrest in childhood. As a child, he/she withdrew inwards and resorted to grandiose fantasies of being superior, special, perfectly loved, self-sufficient and self-important. This was to cover the vulnerability, self-doubt and worthlessness that. Read more

What can I do if I’m living with a Narcissist?

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  If you are in a relationship with a Narcissist, in his/her mind, you are an extension of him/her and he/she must always win, so his/her eruptions of temper and ego and devaluations and guilt are sharp and designed to cut you to the core, leaving you wounded. So, in an. Read more

Why am I with a Narcissist?

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You may be wondering why anyone would be masochistic enough to ever get themselves into a relationship with someone who has so many characteristics of a Narcissist and who leaves you feeling so dreadful? But the truth is that things start off very differently. The narcissist is an absolute perfect delight. Read more

How Do I Know If I’m With a Narcissist?

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An integral part of a healthy relationship is a sense of equality and consideration and empathy for each other. In fact no relationship can feel rewarding and supportive if either partner is mostly self-absorbed. It was once joked that “a Narcissist is someone who after taking the trash out gives the. Read more

Why do we Allow Ourselves to be Controlled?

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Here are some of the reasons why we may have allowed this type of controlling behaviour to have slipped in to our relationship.   We assume that there is good will, that our partner really does want to understand us, and when he or she doesn’t, it is because we haven’t. Read more

Quiz: How to Identify if You Have a Controlling Partner

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If you’re wondering if you have a controlling partner, we’ve created this Quiz just for you. Go through the following statements and add the total number of occasions that you answered yes to.   Your partner tells you in subtle or not so subtle ways that your perception of reality is. Read more

Are You Living With a Steamroller?

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Why do some people become controlling? In order to be our unique and real self, we need access to 4 internal parts of us. They are: 1. Our feelings 2. Our sensations, like hearing, touch, sight and movement, and our preferences. 3. Our intuition 4. Our thinking The first 3 of. Read more

Are You Living With a Steamroller?

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Why do some people become controlling? In order to be our unique and real self, we need access to 4 internal parts of us. They are: 1. Our feelings 2. Our sensations, like hearing, touch, sight and movement, and our preferences. 3. Our intuition 4. Our thinking The first 3 of. Read more

Letter for a Partner Doubtful About Relationship Counselling

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Hi there, For some people, the thought of having to discuss their relationship problems with someone other than their partner is akin to having all your teeth pulled. Sometimes it’s even hard to talk with your partner about the difficulties between you, let alone a stranger. Your relationship is a private. Read more

What Happens in a Counselling Session?

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If you have never been to a counselling session before, it can be a little daunting, so it might help to know that, at the Hart Centre, we have 93% of our clients tell us that their counselling experience with us has been a very helpful one for their relationship. So,. Read more

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